LETTER: CCHS Senior and First-Time Voter Disappointed by Negativity
Laws Brook Road resident Peter Bailey Wells writes that, 'Negativity rarely results in a positive result. Please do not allow our town’s dialogue to be dominated by negativity.'
To the Editor,
I have lived in Concord all of my life. I am a soon-to-graduate senior at CCHS who also happens to have just turned 18. I am planning to vote in the March 19th election that includes a choice of four different citizens for two spots on the school committee. I am not writing to endorse or discredit any candidate. Frankly, I am entirely undecided. I am writing to provoke a series of questions in the minds of all parents and community members of Concord who have had a hand in the discourse surrounding this election.
What are you thinking about when you write semi-anonymous offensive or derogatory comments to someone else on an Internet comment thread? (Such as the ones found following Janet Friedman’s letter to the editor.) Would you have the guts to say such things in public, face-to-face?
Would you like your children to think that the democratic process involves personal insults and the kind of negativity that has been demonstrated during these last few weeks? We ridicule and criticize politicians in Washington for their inability to move past demeaning behavior and produce positive results. Are we really no better than those in Congress whom we disparage for their divisiveness?
I was privileged enough to speak in front of the school committee a couple of weeks ago, as the President of Concord Carlisle Weather Services, the weather club at CCHS. We were there to thank the school committee for what they had done to enable our group to send representatives to the American Meteorological Society Annual Meeting in Austin, TX this January. We talked for about 15 minutes about the wonderful experience we had, and then fielded a series of questions from members of the school committee including Mr. Benincasa, Mr. Fondriest, and Superintendent Rigby. It was warm, welcoming, inviting and all the members of the committee gave off a very great sense of pride in what we had accomplished. They were united (regardless of political position) because of what students had accomplished.
There might be cynics who will read this and claim that I have no worldview beyond the cozy confines of Concord. And they are right. As I said, I have never lived anywhere besides 01742, and I feel incredibly lucky to have been given the unique opportunities that I have been given here.
I implore those cynics to consider this Bobby Kennedy quote:
“We must admit the vanity of our false distinctions among men and learn to find our own advancement in the search for the advancement of others. We must admit in ourselves that our own children's future cannot be built on the misfortunes of others. We must recognize that this short life can neither be ennobled or enriched by hatred or revenge.”
Negativity rarely results in a positive result. Please do not allow our town’s dialogue to be dominated by negativity.
Peter Bailey-Wells
368 Laws Brook Road
Valerie Tratnyek
9:48 am on Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Peter, this is absolutely beautifully written, and I congratulate you on your first election vote! Please keep your heart and your eyes open: it is true that those of us that are much older than you can become cynical and narrow-minded. It is sometimes hard to communicate in a "civil" fashion when passions are high and we have a strong conviction about changes that need to happen in our world. You have reminded us all that we need to be "grown-ups". Thank you......Valerie Tratnyek
Ellen Quackenbush
10:06 am on Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Valerie has it right!
Use the skills you have learned at CCHS to evaluate the candidates based on the facts. Do not accept anyone else's view. As voters, we have the right and responsibility to judge the facts and candidates' statements. Your attitude is great. Vote for the candidates that you judge most worthy. After all, it is your school!
My very best,
Ellen Quackenbush
Peace B Withyou
10:51 am on Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Peter, I moved out of Concord several years ago, due in large part, to this very problem. I did not want my own children growing up in such a toxic environment. (Not to fault YOUR parents -- both of whom are reasonable, positive people who are active in the community.) Sadly, however, my worst fears have been realized and, as your letter proves, Concord's kids ARE acutely aware of the nastiness that lies just below the surface. Thank you, Peter, for calling the adults out on their bad behavior that too often arises when there is a difference in opinion. As Americans we are entitled to free speech, even within the town lines of Concord! I wish you a reasoned, thoughtful, vote today based upon the facts. Know that, sometimes, none of the candidates represent you, and you are free to write in another name, or even cast no vote, in a particular election. I also wish you well as you graduate from CCHS and make your way in the world. Thank you, again, for giving Concord adults a much-needed wake up call.
P.S. I have found that the world outside of Concord is actually really tolerant of differing opinions and viewpoints, and even, gasp!, willing to have reasonable, thoughtful discussions about issues without resorting to offensive and derogatory comments. So, don't despair. Maybe you and your peers can align Concord's behavior with the rest of the world.