There is a law in psychology that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you have been thinking. --William James
Perhaps the most important mental and spiritual principle ever discovered is that what you is going on outside of you is a reflection of what is going on inside of you. You can tell the inner condition of a person by looking at the outer conditions of his or her life. And it cannot be otherwise.
Your mind is extraordinarily powerful. Your thoughts control and determine almost everything that happens to you. They can raise or lower your heart rate, improve or interfere with your digestion, change the chemical composition of your blood, and help you to sleep or keep you awake at night.
Your thought can make you happy or sad, sometimes in an instant. They can make you alert and aware, or distracted and depressed. They can make you popular or unpopular, confident or insecure, positive or negative. Your thoughts can make your feel powerful or powerless, a victim or a victor, a hero or a coward.
In your material life, your thoughts can make you a success or a failure, prosperous or poverty-stricken, respected or ignored. Your thoughts, the actions that they trigger, determine your whole life. And the best news of all is that they are completely under your own control.
As children we are born with no self-concepts. Every idea, opinion, feeling, attitude, or value you have as an adult you learned from childhood. Everything you are today is the result of an idea or impression you took in and accepted as true. When you believe something to be true, it becomes true for you, whatever the fact may be. You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.
Most parents tell their children they can be or do anything they set your minds to but, their way of living and speaking does not model or demonstrate the truth of these words. What is your life mirroring back to you and your family? Do you need to change your thinking?