Patch Asks: Should Father-Daughter Dances Be Banned?

Some schools in Rhode Island have prohibited these events after school lawyers said they violate gender discrimination laws. Do you agree with the ban?

Father-daughter dances are a tradition at many schools and community centers in towns across Massachusetts.

But down in Cranston, R.I., school officials there say they have banned father-daughter dances after a complaint from one mother, according to various reports on Cranston Patch.

The move came after Cranston School Superintendent Judith Lundsten received a letter from the American Civil Liberties Union on behalf of a mother complaining that she had not be allowed to attend a father-daughter dance with her daughter.

Apparently, the federal Title IX legislation that bans gender discrimination actually has an exemption for activities such as father-daughter dances. But Rhode Island law does not honor that exemption, Cranston Patch reports the superintendent as saying.

Does the ACLU have a point? Should father-daughter dances be banned? Or opened up, instead, to parent-child dances? Let us know what you think in the comments section below.

Vineyard Worker September 22, 2012 at 02:05 PM
Banning others from the father-daughter dance experience is reverse discrimination.
Vineyard Worker September 22, 2012 at 03:03 PM
DJ, my Mom's mom died when my mother was 7 years old and she has never suggested banning events that touch upon her loss but rather is happy for her grandchildren and others to experience such joys BECAUSE of her loss.
Noyes Parent September 22, 2012 at 08:45 PM
My children don't have a father (two-mom family) and I take no offense with events like this. Any chance parents have to interact with their kids in an 'out-of the -everyday' way is great. I can't imagine an event in Sudbury where my daughters would not be able to bring a different male (friend, relative) to stand in for the typical dad.
fitzroy September 22, 2012 at 10:45 PM
What is happening in RI sounds like a manifestation of the "are men obsolete?" argument a very left feminist segment is making. Sounds pretty absurd to me.
Aaron Mattix February 02, 2013 at 04:15 PM
I think we should have a list of fathers (with daughters), who are willing to take other girls (without fathers) that attend the same school. I believe the title (Daddy Daughter Dance) is encouraging to any father who takes the father daughter relationship for granted or are just too proud or too shy to put aside a special day on their own. Being a good father in my mind includes caring for and recognizing those children without parents, but we should not loose the title (Daddy/Father Daughter Dance) because everybody knows this world is full of lazy, shy or proud fathers who would just send mom instead. The Daddy Daughter Dance at Wayland Union Schools (in Wayland, MI) has played a big roll in me doing anything i can to be a better father to my daughters over the years so keep the DADDY DAUGHTER DANCE and put me on the FATHERLESS DAUGHTER CHAPERONE LIST.


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